How to Address Your Partner’s Reluctance to Limit Screen Time
It’s tough when you’re looking for a connection, but a screen is stealing the spotlight. According to research, the average adult spends 7 hours and 3 minutes looking at screens each day. We all know too much screen time isn’t great, but when it starts affecting our relationship, it’s a real concern.
If you’re feeling frustrated and unsure how to bring it up without causing tension, here are some simple, practical tips to start that conversation in a way that brings you closer, not further apart.
1. Understanding the Root Cause
First things first, let’s figure out why your partner might be glued to their screen. There could be a bunch of reasons—maybe it’s their way to unwind after a long day, or it’s just a habit they’ve fallen into. 70% of U.S. adults use Facebook daily, indicating its widespread appeal and maybe adding to one of the reasons why your partner uses their phones.
Before jumping to conclusions, try to see things from their perspective. Approaching the topic with empathy can make a huge difference. Instead of accusing them of being on their phone too much, start by understanding what’s driving their screen time. It’ll set a much better tone for the conversation.
2. Open Communication
When it comes to talking about screen time, timing is everything. You’ll want to choose a moment when you’re both relaxed and not distracted—definitely not in the middle of a Netflix binge!
Start the conversation gently. Instead of diving straight into the issue, you might say something like, “I’ve noticed we’re both spending a lot of time on our phones lately. How do you feel about that?” This way, it’s less about pointing fingers and more about exploring the topic together. And based on a study when couples actively work together to limit screen time, they often report fewer arguments and a stronger connection.
And remember, listening is just as important as talking. Be sure to hear out their side of the story—whether they’re stressed from work or just need a bit of downtime. It’s all about finding common ground and working from there.
3. Share Your Perspective
When it’s your turn to share, focus on how you’re feeling rather than pointing fingers. You could say something like, “I miss the times when we’d just talk or hang out without the phones around.” It’s less about controlling their behavior and more about improving the quality of your time together.
By framing it this way, you’re showing that your goal is to strengthen the relationship, not to criticize. It’s all about creating more meaningful moments together, and that’s something you both can appreciate.
4. Suggest Compromises and Solutions
Now, it’s time to find some middle ground. Start by setting mutual goals—maybe you both agree to put your phones away during dinner or have a no-phone hour before bed. It’s all about finding what works for both of you.
Next, think about fun alternatives to screen time. Whether it’s cooking together, going for a walk, or just chatting over coffee, finding activities you both enjoy can make it easier to disconnect from your devices.
Finally, be mindful of how you use technology. Instead of scrolling mindlessly, set specific times for screen use, like checking social media or catching up on emails. This way, you’re still connected but in a more intentional way.
5. Lead by Example
A study involving 3,722 married and cohabiting couples found that when one partner adopted healthier behaviors, the other partner was more likely to make similar positive changes. This shows that sometimes, the best way to inspire change is by leading the way.
Start by setting an example—limit your own screen time and show your partner how it’s improving your day-to-day life.
It’s amazing how small changes can have a big impact. Share a story about how cutting down on screen time has brought you closer to others or helped you enjoy more of the little things. When your partner sees the benefits firsthand, they might be more motivated to join in.
6. Use Tools and Resources
Why not use technology to your advantage? There are some great tools, like Aro, that can help you both keep track of screen time and set limits without it feeling like a chore.
You could also set up a phone-free zone in your home—maybe the dining table or bedroom—where screens are off-limits. It’s a simple way to carve out more quality time together.
And don’t forget to check in with each other. Celebrate the small wins and keep each other motivated. It’s all about teamwork!
Strengthen Your Relationship with Healthier Screen Habits
Limiting screen time isn’t always easy, especially when your partner is reluctant. But with patience, understanding, and the right tools, you can both create more meaningful, connected moments. That’s where Aro comes in—designed to make balancing your relationship with your phone simple and stress-free.
With the Aro box and habit-forming app, turning off your screens and turning towards each other becomes effortless. Give your relationship the boost it needs by embracing healthier phone habits, starting with Aro.
